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Hakomi

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

– Carl Jung

History

The Hakomi Method was developed as a synthesis and evolution of material from Internal Family Systems (IFS or “Parts Work”), Eugene Gendlin’s Focusing, Buddhist and Daoist practices, Somatic Experiencing and more. It also incorporates newer learnings about Memory Re-consolidation and nervous system regulation (Polyvagal Theory).

While these techniques are not appropriate for every situation, the Hakomi toolkit is incredibly powerful for skipping past the stories we tell and finding, facing, and shifting our real motivations and fears.

The Hakomi Principles

The Hakomi principles are the earth from which all practices and techniques are formed. Some of these principles are, in fact, part of what distinguish Hakomi as a unique and powerful approach.

For example, the principle of nonviolence means that instead of blasting through inner resistance, which is often our well developed and powerful natural protection, we instead welcome this protection. By making space to understand this expression of ourselves we allow it to be seen, addressed, and relax to make way for further unfoldment. This can lessen the chance of that resistance coming back stronger. It can also be a corrective experience given how often we have not been treated, or treated ourselves, with this kind of awareness and appreciation.

The Hakomi Principles are:

  • Mindfulness
  • Organicity
  • Mind-Body Holism
  • Unity
  • Nonviolence

You can read more on the Hakomi International website.

Hakomi… is something that I found very helpful for learning to feel again, after a lifetime of numbing and dissociation… it’s been a process to relearn how to feel, and to embrace that sensitivity as a gift and not just a liability.”

– Tim Ferriss

Kai had a very profound impact on my life. He helped me discover a growth edge that I wasn’t even aware of, and helped me frame the next step in my own personal evolution. To top it off, the simplicity with which Kai framed everything and the practices he gave me were powerful. I’m discovering a new way of being within myself and carrying myself in the world. I can sense that I’ve grown deeply, and I want to say a big THANK YOU to Kai.
KL
Kai had a very profound impact on my life. He helped me discover a growth edge that I wasn’t even aware of, and helped me frame the next step in my own personal evolution. To top it off, the simplicity with which Kai framed everything and the practices he gave me were powerful. I’m discovering a new way of being within myself and carrying myself in the world. I can sense that I’ve grown deeply, and I want to say a big THANK YOU to Kai.
KL
I consider myself extremely fortunate – blessed, even – to have met Kai and to be coached by him. I can confidently say that I have never experienced the level of intuitive, down-to-earth, gentle, and effective guidance that I am receiving with Kai. I feel like the work we have accomplished in these four months might have taken four years or more with any other [work] that I have experienced before, if at all. It is clear to me that Kai has found his true calling.
Rosina Newton
I consider myself extremely fortunate – blessed, even – to have met Kai and to be coached by him. I can confidently say that I have never experienced the level of intuitive, down-to-earth, gentle, and effective guidance that I am receiving with Kai. I feel like the work we have accomplished in these four months might have taken four years or more with any other [work] that I have experienced before, if at all. It is clear to me that Kai has found his true calling.
Rosina Newton
Since I had never worked with a coach before I didn’t know what to expect, nor have any idea what an incredibly valuable experience working with Kai would become for me. Kai gave me practices, ways to think things through, and ways to become more observant of myself, my reactions and the ways that I did things – all of which became life-changing seeds. I strongly recommend that anyone who wants to start on a path of learning what they want, achieving their dreams, and finding fulfillment and happiness work...
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Shannon
Since I had never worked with a coach before I didn’t know what to expect, nor have any idea what an incredibly valuable experience working with Kai would become for me. Kai gave me practices, ways to think things through, and ways to become more observant of myself, my reactions and the ways that I did things– all of which became life-changing seeds. I strongly recommend that anyone who wants to start on a path of learning what they want, achieving their dreams, and finding fulfillment and happiness work with Kai.
Shannon
Coaching can be about achieving more of the same. Working with Kai is something altogether different. With his warm presence, wealth of knowledge, and sense of humor, Kai was an excellent guide along my transformational journey. He supported me through several personal and professional challenges to arrive in entirely new and wonderful places. I would highly recommend working with Kai!
Kim
Coaching can be about achieving more of the same. Working with Kai is something altogether different. With his warm presence, wealth of knowledge, and sense of humor, Kai was an excellent guide along my transformational journey. He supported me through several personal and professional challenges to arrive in entirely new and wonderful places. I would highly recommend working with Kai!
Kim
Kai became a spiritual companion, a mature friend, who walked with me at the pace that was just right, with consistent kind holding and clear mirroring. He helped me navigate and negotiate the light and the dark with exceptional depth and empathy. Walking with Kai along the edge of inquiry helped me emerge as a stronger, kinder, clearer self, both in relation and in expression.
Sofia Nazaretian
Kai became a spiritual companion, a mature friend, who walked with me at the pace that was just right, with consistent kind holding and clear mirroring. He helped me navigate and negotiate the light and the dark with exceptional depth and empathy. Walking with Kai along the edge of inquiry helped me emerge as a stronger, kinder, clearer self, both in relation and in expression.
Sofia Nazaretian
I can't recommend Kai enough. His expertise, empathy, and insightful coaching are exactly what I need to navigate one of the most important conversations of my life successfully. Kai filled in the blanks that AI couldn't, preparing me for potential pitfalls and giving me a better understanding of how to approach the conversation energetically. He taught me how to catch myself when I went off course and what to do when that inevitably happened. Thanks to Kai, I feel equipped, confident, and ready to have that crucial conversation.
Lisa Kaselak
I can't recommend Kai enough. His expertise, empathy, and insightful coaching are exactly what I need to navigate one of the most important conversations of my life successfully. Kai filled in the blanks that AI couldn't, preparing me for potential pitfalls and giving me a better understanding of how to approach the conversation energetically. He taught me how to catch myself when I went off course and what to do when that inevitably happened. Thanks to Kai, I feel equipped, confident, and ready to have that crucial conversation.
Lisa Kaselak

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